Carol Hudak


Adoption Advocacy

Statement to the CT Legislature regarding SB296 March 6, 2012


    -  CT. MIRROR (CT. online political newspaper, published in Hartford, CT.), April 14, 2014.   
       Op. Ed. piece I wrote about finding and receiving my birth brother's college yearbook picture from the Archives Dept. at 
       Western CT. State University, in Danbury. I never met my birth brother. (He died many years ago.)

    - This letter also appeared in the Danbury News/Times (print and online) as well as the Trumbull Times (print and online)

    - SUNDAY CT. POST, front page article and photos, April 27, 2014. My Op-Ed. piece was impetus for the CT. POST to call and 
      interview me for this front page story about my adoption, for an original birth certificate access story.  They took a photo  
      of myself in front of a picture of an anonymous little girl which I found in an antique store 12 years ago. She looks just 
      like me!  I have to add that the store owner nearly fainted when he saw the resemblance. (Same for the man who framed    


     This leads me into my next piece of news . . . 

      I am happy to say that I have finished my 5th book:  "Do I Belong to You?" The Story of My Search for My Birth Family.
      Inherent in my story is the complex issue of 'should I search; am I hurting my birth family; am I ungrateful for 
      wanting to know who I really am . . . ' (etc.)   I wrote this book with the hope of helping adult adoptees who grapple with
      these questions; while informing the non-adopted (most especially State Legislators) of the unique issues of adult 
      adoptees. It is a very personal and honest story . . . Back to the Access Story. The invitation read:

                                                     CEREMONIAL BILL SIGNING FOR PUBLIC ACT 14-133


                                                                              Friday, July 18th

                                                                                       3:00 pm

                                                                          GOVERNOR'S OFFICE

         What an honor to be invited!

        My esteemed State Senator, Anthony Musto, gave my name and address to Gov. Malloy's aide, who sent me a formal

        invitation to the signing.  As it happened, I stood at the right hand of the gov. as he signed the bill. With ceremonial     

        signings, he uses a different pen for each letter of his first name. When he finished signing his full name, he turned              

        and handed me a pen. (Sometimes it pays to be short - we always get put in the front row.)

                            ** What must be noted is that Public Act 14-133 gives full access to CT. adult adoptees 18 and

        older born after 1983. Ironically, every adoptee at the signing was born before 1983.  After 40 years of trying, this is a

        gigantic accomplishment, and one we will capitalize on in the coming session. Sadly, adoption was once about the welfare

        of the child. Now adoptee rights in CT. is 2nd fiddle to the 'right of secrecy' for the relinquishing mother, though no law has

        ever been passed in CT. promising such secrecy. Catholic Charities has gone above the law for decades, assuring unwed

        mothers that their secret 'sin' would be held safely in silence. Thus, the passing of any form of adult adoptee rights is a

        major milestone.  We are forced to remind legislators that we are adults independent of birth mothers; that we need our

        names, our heritage, our medical history, and now, since 9/11, we need an original birth certificate to obtain a passport.

                                   And still some legislators vote against our rights.

        I applaude Gov. Malloy, Rep. Dave Alexander of Enfield, Sen. Anthony Musto, Rep. Fred Camillo and many others for        supporting  CT. adult adoptee civil rights. It's demeaning to have to beg for what should morally and ethically  be ours: the

        right to know who we really are.  Thanks, also, to Access CT. and the superb leadership of Karen Caffrey, a fellow adoptee.

        I want to add that having the right to know who we are does not lessen feelings toward our adoptive parents.  It's natural

        to want to know your identity. Any adoptee who feels the need to know, should have that right.  This is not meant as

        an insult to our adoptive parents.  It's just that many 'enquiring adoptee minds want to know.' 

                                    Thank you 2014 CT. State Legislature and Gov. Dannel Malloy.